“We so often react to problems, but we should strive to live a life for our children which will enable us not to have be in reactive mode so much - a good defense system, for lack of a better word, (one which involves unity, love and intimacy) may dissipate any unforseen problems before they materialize.”
As babies, we often cry ourselves to sleep at the end of the day. While it freaks many of us new parents out with worry over something being ‘wrong’, a lot of times there is nothing going on besides a way of coping with all the stimulation experienced throughout the day. We release through tears. Are able to relax and fall asleep.
As we grow older, we start modeling our mental and emotional patterns based on those around us. If our adult role models are reactionary, then that is also the pattern we learn as children, when it comes to coping with certain emotions.
Anyone can ask my kids. They’ll tell ya’. I’m a vulture of a mom. Behavior police. They learn not to treat other people any way I don’t like being treated. If I re-act, they can pretty much assume other people will react. Most likely with a shorter fuse then mine.
Having chosen to base my value system on being able to embrace our ‘negative’s well as our ‘positive’, I am free to ‘mess up’ sometimes, too. And re-act. And I’m not pleasant when I re-act. No one even wants to be anywhere around the vicinity of any of my explosions…like fallout from a nuclear re-action.
Because I can ’see’, I *know* where all of our inner weaknesses are.
The more intimately we *know* and Understand ourselves, the more intimately we *know* and understand all others. For underneath surface appearance of being different, we are all the same. All it takes “to see” is to ask ourselves the question of any action, “what would cause me to act that way?”
To *know* a thing, is to have Power over it.
“A good defense system”…might I share an alternative?
How about instead of thinking about defense, we think about immunity?
Kind of like instead of worrying about ‘catching something’, we nurture the idea of immune systems empowered to handle anything?
just an idea…
And there are other ways of dealing with our emotions then trying to distance and detach ourselves from them. Which as you illuminated, is what intimacy or, “into me see”, is all about…
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