From {{jon’s}} bog, Jon’s New Age Wanderings:

“Should marriage be abolished?”

Oh boy, what a can of worms!

What if I said that what most of us consider ‘marriage’ is a farce? That it is not a Union; it is a relationship of dependency and extortion. It is a contractual arrangement based on emotional need. And since it is based on need, it is not a Union of Hearts. It is not a Union made ‘by god’. For whatever is joined by God cannot be pulled asunder.

And this statement is True.

My 1st ‘marriage’ was one of these farces. Oh sure, we had the license, we had the minister pronounce us joined but we weren’t. When I walked out of it, I walked out saying that trying to change me to suit him meant he had no genuine love or respect for me.

The ‘marriage’ I enjoy now is based on genuine kinship and compatibility. There are NO conditions. My husband *knows* my love is unconditional. I wouldn’t think to limit or control ANY of his choices. The Fidelity we are committed to, is being Faithful to the Presence in our Hearts. As for ‘monogamy’, it is a personal choice. I may choose it for myself but I do not make it a condition that I insist he choose also. (Ladies, you’d be surprised how much allure disappears once the label of ‘forbidden’ is removed.)

We are pillars that stand together willingly, not sticks that lean on each other.

The reason why so many marriages fail these days is because they are actually prisons of bondage. The relationship is not based on Love, which is extended freely without any conditions, but is an arrangement of barter. “I will love you so long as you fulfill the conditions of satisfying my emotional needs but if these needs are not satisfied, I won’t love you any longer. For I really don’t Love you as much as I love how you make me feel.”

These farces that we have been taught are ‘marriages’, have historically been based on property rights and viewing the other person as personal property.